What It’s Like to Breastfeed a Toddler

baby-breastfeeding-mother-in-restaurantBreastfeed a baby and you’ll get stares because you’re doing it in public, but most people will think it’s a normal way to feed your baby. (Except for those crazy “Ew, breastfeeding is gross!” people.)

Breastfeed a toddler in public, and you’ll get everything from looks of horror and revulsion to comments about it not being “right” to people even calling you a pedophile for feeding your child.

I don’t get it — and I used to be one of those people. No, not the “breastfeeding is gross” or “you’re a pedophile” type of people. But definitely one of those who felt uncomfortable at the sight of an older child breastfeeding and who thought it was “weird.”

I had a total about-face when I had a baby.

I didn’t plan to still be breastfeeding my nearly 2-and-a-half-year-old. In fact, I wasn’t sure if I would make it more than six months. The reason I’m still breastfeeding is that it just feels right. For every time I’ve felt completely fed up with breastfeeding (which happens about every other week), and for every time I’ve sworn that I was going to wean, I just couldn’t bring myself to make her stop. It felt wrong. It didn’t feel like the right thing to make her stop doing something that seemed so natural to her and that brought her so much comfort.

Breastfeeding a toddler isn’t like breastfeeding a baby. There are no round-the-clock feedings. Now, she only nurses to go to sleep, and that’s usually about 10 to 15 minutes. Sometimes she asks when she’s overly tired during the day or when she wakes up in the night. Mostly, she’s more concerned with bouncing from place to place, discovering new things and telling me all about them as she goes. She wants to sing and dance more than she wants to cuddle and nurse. She wants to swing and ride in her wagon more than she wants to slow down long enough to sit in my lap and breastfeed.

Now that she’s a toddler, she can also tell me what she needs. I don’t have to interpret her cries or offer her as much comforting because she’s so upset about not being able to express herself. Sometimes, what she needs to express is that she needs to nurse. I don’t tell her that it’s “for babies” or that she’s a “big girl” and doesn’t need it. Wanting to nurse isn’t like wanting candy. It’s healthy and nutritious for her, and it comforts her in ways that a cuddle sometimes can’t. There’s no reason for me to deny her.

I never thought I’d be breastfeeding a toddler, but now that I am, it feels like exactly the right thing to do.

About Maria Magher

Maria Magher
Maria Magher blogs about trying to make it through the chaos of parenting at Anarchy in the Sandbox. She fell into attachment parenting after realizing that co-sleeping, breastfeeding on demand and baby wearing was the only way to keep her sanity in those early days -- even though she didn't have a name for any of it back then. Now she's trying to navigate the stormy toddler years with as much grace and gentleness as she can muster. You can also find her on Facebook.

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    Hello Fellow Mamas! My daughter is an almost twenty one month old, and were are still going strong in our breastfeeding journey. Our start was very rocky to the point of giving up altogether but with God’s help we managed to succeed and tell our story. It’s a big accomplishment in our family since none of my female relatives have been able to do so, and it is such a gift in the form of bonding and pure nutrition that I wanted to give to my daughter. Our bliss has been uninterrupted for a while till she experienced some type of illness with some vomiting and diarrhea. I know it is a bit naive to think that she wouldn’t get sick and that my milk was superhuman,but it happened, maybe the culprit was some takeout food that we let her taste( not very proud of that)However, she is still on the breast and hopefully will get through this fast.

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    My child is now 2 and 2 months. I am constantly pressured to stop the breastfeeding, even by the baby’s father. He was very supportive to a stage but now sees it otherwise though I only feed 2-3 times a day. Of course even I’m worried that I might “never” stop but I know it’s ridiculous to think that way. I wish I could learn to replace the put-to-sleep feeding with something else, though. Then I could continue better with my/our terms. This sure is a cause of anxiety!

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    Way to go momma! I breastfed my son til he was three years old and two months! He only nursed once a day, but he still enjoyed drinking his ‘mommy milk’. I had to stop because I need to get a mammogram and apparently my doctor says to get accurate results, you have to quit breastfeeding for at least six months prior to the mammogram. My sister is a breast cancer survivor-so it was necessary. I do think my son misses that quality time we had together though.