Sex After Baby: The Real Story

Abby, aka the ‘Badass Breastfeeder’, answers the question on every new mom (and dad’s) mind: ‘Is there sex after baby?”

“If someone had asked me about sex after Jack was born I might have said that it would never occur again in my lifetime. I read in various places that I should wait 4-6 weeks, but I ignored it. I had way too much to think about. Who in the world was thinking about sex after giving birth?! When Jack turned 4-6 weeks old I was flabbergasted that people were expected to be ready to have sex. I mean the blood, the stitches, the gore!! The thought of something going in my vagina seemed just as traumatizing as the experience of a baby coming out. Not to mention the lack of desire. I thought “you’ve got to be kidding me!”  To be honest, I don’t even think my husband was over the sight of seeing me push our son out of my vagina over a period of 30 hours. He wanted nothing for me but to be comfortable, healed and happy. ”

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Abby is also the regular guest Blogger on Breastfeeding Basics, so  don’t forget to read her latest blog post, First Things First.

About Abby Theuring

The Badass Breastfeeder is a mother, writer, social worker, attachment parent, proud breastfeeder and advocate. Her career as a social worker has shown her that gentle and connected parenting is vital for life-long emotional health. You can find her blog at and Facebook page at

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One comment

  1. I feel like I wrote this! Same history of working with at risk youth and convinced myself I would have a plan to not let my son go down that path. I did just what you did- terrified at what I read online about co sleeping and Sids and how often your baby is suppose to sleep (on their back on a flat surface away from you).he now usually ends up in my bed anyway after we both fall asleep feeding. Do i tell anyone this? No! Because co sleeping is evil according at all the websites!
    I never really knew I was slowly fitting into the AP category but I guess I am! Like you said I just do what feels right and if that makes me a “hippy” then so be it!

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