Sex After Baby: The Real Story

Abby, aka the ‘Badass Breastfeeder’, answers the question on every new mom (and dad’s) mind: ‘Is there sex after baby?”

“If someone had asked me about sex after Jack was born I might have said that it would never occur again in my lifetime. I read in various places that I should wait 4-6 weeks, but I ignored it. I had way too much to think about. Who in the world was thinking about sex after giving birth?! When Jack turned 4-6 weeks old I was flabbergasted that people were expected to be ready to have sex. I mean the blood, the stitches, the gore!! The thought of something going in my vagina seemed just as traumatizing as the experience of a baby coming out. Not to mention the lack of desire. I thought “you’ve got to be kidding me!”  To be honest, I don’t even think my husband was over the sight of seeing me push our son out of my vagina over a period of 30 hours. He wanted nothing for me but to be comfortable, healed and happy. ”

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Abby is also the regular guest Blogger on Breastfeeding Basics, so  don’t forget to read her latest blog post, First Things First.

About Abby Theuring

Abby Theuring
The Badass Breastfeeder is a mother, writer, social worker, attachment parent, proud breastfeeder and advocate. Her career as a social worker has shown her that gentle and connected parenting is vital for life-long emotional health. You can find her blog at and Facebook page at

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    I feel like I wrote this! Same history of working with at risk youth and convinced myself I would have a plan to not let my son go down that path. I did just what you did- terrified at what I read online about co sleeping and Sids and how often your baby is suppose to sleep (on their back on a flat surface away from you).he now usually ends up in my bed anyway after we both fall asleep feeding. Do i tell anyone this? No! Because co sleeping is evil according at all the websites!
    I never really knew I was slowly fitting into the AP category but I guess I am! Like you said I just do what feels right and if that makes me a “hippy” then so be it!

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