Boobies Are For Babies

When a breastfeeder is told that they must cover so that other people don’t feel uncomfortable or so that no one makes rude comments or harasses them it suggests that they are responsible for what other people feel or do. It is the same line of thinking as telling a person that they asked to be raped because of the clothes they were wearing.

Breasts are for babies. Breasts can also be used during sex. But the breastfeeding relationship is not a sexual relationship, breastfeeding is not a sexual act. The fact that breasts are sexually attractive is a cultural phenomenon. There are many cultures on this planet where the sight of breasts does not evoke feelings of sexual arousal. The natural function of breasts is to feed children. Sex organs are organs involved in sexual reproduction. Breasts do not fall into this category.

In our culture we expect that sex organs be covered, but the suggestion that breasts are sex organs is just plain incorrect. Worse, the idea that breasts should be covered perpetuates the over-sexualization of breasts. This undermines the breastfeeding relationship between a mother and her child.

The female body has become a marketing tool, a toy to be used only by sexual partners, a sexy package for display. There is an illusion that she is powerful only because she is sexual. In reality, the over-sexualization of the female body depreciates its true value.

We have become estranged from the force of nature that is our body. Our bodies can grow a baby, birth this baby and sustain the life of this baby. All on its own. With no help from anyone. This is the greatest power in the world. We don’t need to see less breasts. We need to see more breasts in their natural function. Nurturing our children is the foundation of civilization. We are the most important people. We will do what’s best for our children, not what you tell us to do.

Abby Theuring

The Badass Breastfeeder is a mother, writer, social worker, attachment parent, proud breastfeeder and advocate. Her career as a social worker has shown her that gentle and connected parenting is vital for life-long emotional health. You can find her blog at and Facebook page at

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